feat: restart stopped workspaces on ssh command (#11050)

* feat: autostart workspaces on ssh & port forward

This is opt out by default. VScode ssh does not have this behavior

cli/testdata/coder_config-ssh_--help.golden

@@ -21,6 +21,9 @@ OPTIONS:
           ProxyCommand. By default, the binary invoking this command ('config
           ssh') is used.
 
+      --disable-autostart bool, $CODER_CONFIGSSH_DISABLE_AUTOSTART (default: false)
+          Disable starting the workspace automatically when connecting via SSH.
+
   -n, --dry-run bool, $CODER_SSH_DRY_RUN
           Perform a trial run with no changes made, showing a diff at the end.
 

cli/testdata/coder_port-forward_--help.golden

@@ -34,6 +34,9 @@ USAGE:
        $ coder port-forward <workspace> --tcp 1.2.3.4:8080:8080
 
 OPTIONS:
+      --disable-autostart bool, $CODER_SSH_DISABLE_AUTOSTART (default: false)
+          Disable starting the workspace automatically when connecting via SSH.
+
   -p, --tcp string-array, $CODER_PORT_FORWARD_TCP
           Forward TCP port(s) from the workspace to the local machine.
 

cli/testdata/coder_ssh_--help.golden

@@ -6,6 +6,9 @@ USAGE:
   Start a shell into a workspace
 
 OPTIONS:
+      --disable-autostart bool, $CODER_SSH_DISABLE_AUTOSTART (default: false)
+          Disable starting the workspace automatically when connecting via SSH.
+
   -A, --forward-agent bool, $CODER_SSH_FORWARD_AGENT
           Specifies whether to forward the SSH agent specified in
           $SSH_AUTH_SOCK.